How is it so damn difficult to know ourselves? I mean, we spend all day with us, right? But, really it’s just like going into an art museum and standing only an inch away from all of the artwork. (Which I’m pretty sure is frowned upon.) When you’re so close to the picture, you can’t get an accurate portrayal of the entire thing. That’s kind of what it’s like being with ourselves. Our natural talents and abilities come so naturally that we don’t even realize they’re special. That would be like someone telling you one day that everyone else has to try really hard to blink. Crazy! You’ve been doing it so easily this whole time! So if you’re standing there wondering, “What am I supposed to do with my life?” I’ve got the whole tool kit right here for you!
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Ditch your joy killers
The first step to really starting to find who you are and what you are supposed to do with your life is to start ditching all of the stuff that’s holding you back.
So often, when we aren’t sure what our life path is, we find material things to give us that temporary satisfaction. Instead, of constantly trying to fill yourself up with impulse purchases and the latest trends, try the following process:
- Make a list of your top 5 live goals
- Review your spending to see if you are spending money on your biggest goals (or if it’s getting spent elsewhere).
- Evaluate how you spend your time.
- Whatever is holding you back, ditch it.
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Test your personality
One thing to become wildly obsessed with if you feel totally lost in life…is yourself. Take the time to find yourself and figure out who you are, what your strengths are and OBSESSIVELY do it!
Here are some of my favorite “find yourself” tools that I have used to get to the bottom of who I am and what I want out of life. Remember, you have amazing skills that you might not even be aware of! Turn Your Skills Into a Virtual Money-Maker
The Enneagram Test is all the rage these days and for good reason. It’s one of the most simplified personality tests I’ve found. In fact, I wrote a post all about how to simplify based on your enneagram! You can click here to take the enneagram test. However, if you really want to dive into your personality, I highly suggest scooping up the book, Honest Enneagram.
Strengths Finder 2.0
You know at job interviews when they ask you your biggest strengths and you’re like, “Uhhhh…..hmmm…..I guess I’m good at thinking on my toes?!”
Yeah, well, it turns out there are major strengths that most of us don’t even think about as strengths. For example, my top strength according to Strengths Finder 2.0 is Input. What the crap does that mean? Well, it means I’m a collector. (No wonder I had a shopping addiction.) As I read deeper into input I found that one of the things I might collect is words, information and quotes. This could not be any more accurate. I always tell people, “I love learning.”
But, enough about me, want to learn your top 5 strengths? Grab your own Strengths Finder 2.0 book, take the test and read all about yourself. PLUS, get job recommendations based on your unique strengths!
Please Understand Me
I loved this book too and did it for every single person in our family. This book also dives into what you’re supposed to do with your life when it comes to your personality and work.
You can also read about your personality in a relationship with your spouse which was super fun. There are two Please Understand Me books, I personally loved the second edition. Click here to get your copy.
Ikigai is a Japanese method for finding your life’s purpose! What it really is meant to show you is how to never retire. Not retiring may sound awful in our culture, but what it’s trying to show you is how to live life on your terms so that you never really feel like you’re working a day in your life.
You find your life’s purpose with the Ikigai chart. Not just your job, but your all-around purpose.
7 x Y
There is one final method that I really love that can help you get down the core of not only what you’re supposed to do with your life, but what your driving force is behind everything! I call it the 7 x Y. It’s really just taking the time to ask yourself “Why” over and over again until you get to the root cause.
Question: “Why do you want to find your life’s purpose?”
Answer: “I want to make sure I’m living my life the way I’m supposed to.”
Question: “Why is it important for you to live the way you’re supposed to?”
Answer: “I want to make sure to take advantage of all of my skills and talents.”
Question: “Why is it important for you to take advantage of your skills and talents?’
Ask yourself the “why” 7 times and you will help yourself get to the deep down guiding force behind why you want to find your purpose. Knowing this can help you get a better idea for how to direct your life.
Find your inner child
As I kid what were your passions?
Did you use to plan plays or coordinate the neighbor kids to put on puppet shows?
Were you always digging in the dirt looking for bugs and worms to watch and learn about?
Here’s a secret: whatever lit you up as a child is what will light you up as an adult. You just have to allow yourself to get back to that inner child.
Get creative with your job title
Lastly, we so often believe that what we are supposed to do with our lives, or our life purpose has got to be directly tied to our jobs or what we do for a living.
First of all, I am a big fan of doing whatever the heck I want to make money.
Entrepreneurship has always called to me. I love hearing about the unique ways people have found to make money while simultaneously being true to themselves. Think about your strengths and what you loved doing as a child and then get creative about how you can turn that into a money-making, passion-driven purpose in your life!
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Starting an online business or blog that aligns with your purpose is easier (and more affordable) than ever! I mean, if I can make money with a blog that sells no physical product and teaches people how to live life with less clutter…you can make money with your life’s passion too! How to Make Money with a Minimalist Blog