Life is no easy thang folks. I think we’ve all figured that out by now. However, I hold in my hands the most useful life hack for anyone of any age, gender, race or political stance. It’s kindness. You can roll your eyes, it’s fine, I get it. But the thing is, I know firsthand just how far a little kindness can go. Truth be told, kindness is hard especially when you’re not using it every day. Chances are a lot of you might think you are using kindness every day but I would be willing to bet you have overlooked a few places.
“When I hear somebody say, ‘Life is hard.’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?'” -Sydney Harris
In 2012 I started a new experiment. I vowed to speak no words of un-kindness. Like I said, “IT. WAS. HARD.” But despite the difficulties of watching my words, I began to notice huge changes take place in my life and the lives around me. I had to take steps, I even went through a grief period where I actually missed the negativity in my life. At times I felt like I would never be able to speak again. Then slowly, all those fears and struggles just melted away and my life has been on an upward stride ever since.
So, hear me out on this. As a Holistic Nutritionist, why I will never help you lose weight.
I have done that mirror-of-shame stare down with myself. Cutting out pictures of other women and posting them up in hopes that I would be inspired to change who I am and be more like them. There have been times when all I could do was fixate on what physical aspect I wanted to change about my body. I have cut myself down and felt like I would never be good enough.
No one deserves to feel this way. Lately, I have had someone very close to me open up and admit that they hate their body. Honestly stating that they feel worse about themselves around me, because I have a smaller build. At first, I took offense to this, but truthfully, as a female today, I get it. Who of us hasn’t stood next to someone who was thinner, more toned, better “endowed’ and didn’t start to think less of themselves? As a society, we are so quick to pinch and poke at our reflection in the mirror and we are more and more losing touch with how we are really feeling.
Think about this for a minute; if you didn’t have a full length mirror, a scale or Photoshopped images all around you, how would you truly feel in your own body? No number dictating your self worth. No unreachable body image to live up to. Would you feel at peace in your body? My goal, as a holistic nutritionist is to help this answer be: “yes.”
Weight loss is all the rage and has been since the 1950’s. The problem with this is that people have literally been obsessing about weight loss for almost three quarters of a decade! In truth, weight loss doesn’t have to be that stressful! There are 10 common things that most people do when it comes to weight loss that you can totally quit today! If you are tired of trying to lose weight and stressing about it the whole time, then you are going to want to keep reading!