I definitely can’t be the only person who has gone through life with a fake smile, pretending like everything was fine when it really wasn’t. This happens far too often. Whether it’s a quick encounter of “how are you today?” at the grocery store or a serious facade when surrounded by friends all day, every day, someone in the world is pretending they are “OK.” Not all the time, but more and more, I am learning to be okay with not being okay.
I am 32 and having given birth for the first time at 23 and raising my husband’s 5 year old starting at the age of 20 I have raised a child at every single age from pregnancy to 18!! (Well, technically, I am 3 months away from the 18 mark.) Now, I wouldn’t have called myself a minimalist when I first became a mom but somehow having 3 kids in my life (plus a 24 year old step daughter) forced me to simplify…or die. So how did I do it? I don’t know… but I’m going to do my best to give you simple tips that can help you practice minimalist parenting at every age.
I never thought I would be here. My dreams never included staying at home. In fact, my dreams didn’t even include children for a very long time. Yet, here I am, not only staying home but homeschooling my kids. Who am I? Did I always dream of motherhood? Am I an introvert who loves the comfort of her home? No. I’m just a woman who fell in love with her children and wants the absolute best for them. A woman who decided to skip the high cost of daycare and be a part of my kid’s day to day life. But, I have a secret too. I need more than motherhood. I need more than all the wonderful things being a mom has to offer. I’m a stay at home mom who dreams of more than motherhood. If you’re nodding your head along in agreement, then this letter is for you.
Mom guilt is a real thing and it is rough. Keeping track of schedules, concerts, sports and managing individual personalities is exhausting.
I’m here to tell you that you can actually be a better mom by doing less. Being a minimalist mom, I have learned minimalism goes way beyond downsizing and organizing. It’s all about your mindset and priorities too.