A few years ago I got super swept up into the wide-world of goal setting. It all started when I started the blog. I paid for trainings that continually told me to set goals to grow my blow. While I do love this concept and see where the benefits lie, I also found goal setting to be a bottomless pit of despair. That might sound dramatic, but that’s pretty much what it felt like. As I quietly snuck out of the goal-setting culture I began to find that there were others like me and that this whole goal-setting thing can actually lead to so major setbacks. If you’ve been struggling with setting and sticking to your goals, here are some reasons why it might not be working for you.
I have been taking a “business course” with author and speaker, Rachel Hollis. Our last lesson, she told us to think about how to explain our business to others. I wrote down a very basic, straightforward answer in my notebook. Then this morning I woke up and realized, my actual goal is a little bit bigger than “helping people simplify their lives and improve their finances.” My major goal for this blog, for my life, and for you is to help you create a life you want to live, not a life you have to live. I lived a life I had to for a while. I’ve had family members who lived a life they had to live. Then you know what happened to some of them? They stopped living. Literally. I don’t want that to be me. Or you. So, what can you do to get out of the rat race and start working on living a life you want?
Word of the Year is a totally new concept to me. Sure, like a decade ago I would pretend to set a resolution knowing I wouldn’t stick to it. It seemed like the second I set a resolution or insisted on living up to a big goal was the same second I totally started panicking. Wayne Dyer once said this about quitting alcohol for 20 years, “If I’d have said to myself 20 years ago, ‘Wayne, you’re going to quit drinking for the next 20 years.’ I would have gone immediately and had a drink. Because it’s just. too. big.” –Man, I gotta start listening to that guy again.
Anywho, I haven’t set an actual resolution for myself in years. But this year, on New Years Eve I decided to pick a Word of the Year. The word I chose was “fear” and I want to share with you a little bit about why.
We live in a society of goal setters. People who want to accomplish big things in their life. Entrepreneurs who throw their “HUSTLE HARD OR GO HOME” coffee mugs around Instagram like it’s their job…because it just might be. Like most people, when I fell into the “hustling…