A Step by Step Guide to: Loving Yourself

A Step by Step Guide to: Loving Yourself

Guest Post by: Christina Jackson, owner of lifestyle blog Choosing Charlie

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As I reflect back on my childhood, I always wondered how I got so chunky? I somehow went from being a fairly thin child to a heavy teenager. From middle school to high school, I was always on the heavier side and that’s something that still bothers me til this very day.

  • Step one of loving your body: Having positive mental awareness.

Learn who you are as a person. If you can appreciate the things that you hate about your body, then you’ll begin to find the things that you love as well. Just because you have big feet doesn’t mean you can’t find cute shoes, or thinking having a big booty is going to hold a mans interest. Find those positives, and appreciate them, because what you may hate about yourself someone else might love it.

I have had dreams of having three wishes, and one of them was to be “skinny”. What society doesn’t tell us is that skinny doesn’t always equate to healthy. I even thought of trading bodies with other women, just thinking about what it would feel like to be comfortable in my own skin. Tell yourself, anyone would be lucky to have you the way you are, and if they don’t tell them to kick rocks because there’s more in line to take you as you are!

If you can begin to understand that it first starts with your mind, you may proceed to step two.

  • Step two of loving your body: Don’t let society and social media form opinions on how you should look.

choosing charlieThere are women with all kinds of body shapes and sizes, and they are beautiful but it’s not always realistic.

You know the girls who fantasize about another women’s bodies, isn’t a great start to accepting your body mentally. Having big breasts, a tiny waist, and a big booty doesn’t make you more attractive than a woman with confidence in her own skin. For most, our bodies aren’t meant to be small or so curvy. There are women who paid to have that tiny waist, and big hips, so those aren’t things you should aspire to.

Although, I am at the smallest weight I’ve ever been, and even still there’s room for improvement in my mind. I’ve had to tell myself that those girls on Instagram don’t get to determine what “fitness” and “beautiful” are defined as. Aspire to appreciate your flat booty, or broad shoulders, and back rolls.

Remember: You can be sexy, and courageous, and fierce at any size!

  • Step three of loving your body: Shut up and do something about it.

If you really hate your body that much, start finding ways to improve the things you hate. Something as small as cutting out soda, and walking a mile a day can be small ways to improve your eating habits and start getting active.

Okay, so maybe you don’t want to change your body, and that’s okay too. There’s nothing wrong with staying true to yourself as long as you’re happy with who you are, and have a positive body mentality.

  • Step four of loving your body: Stand in the mirror naked and tell yourself that you are beautiful.

choosing charlieStanding in front of the mirror isn’t something that I’ve always done. As I have gotten older, I have come to a realization that the mirror is my friend. Sometimes we have arguments after I eat a meal or two, but if you can love yourself naked, you’re one step closer to finding that self love.

As swimsuit season approaches, I have been working out more and started intermittent fasting in May. Intermittent fasting has helped me lose weight and keep myself accountable of when to eat, so I’m not eating to early or too late in the day. With being in the military I get a workout every morning but sometimes that’s not enough. Something as little as doing sit-ups, and squats in your room can help build muscle and make your sweat. Also I cut out any drink that isn’t water. For additional flavor I use Crystal Light and drink Vitamin Water Zero Lemonade. I also cut out any foods that were high in sodium like frozen foods, and anything high in sugar content. Cutting out sugar, salt, and increasing water intake has made me realize how much junk I was putting into my body. I was never a horrible eater but just making theses small adjustments has aided in my weight loss. The last thing that helped my physically and financially was meal prepping. I used to meal prep in college, and gave up as my school hours got longer. Meal prepping helps me cut down on spending unnecessary money for my day-to-day meals and all you need is a microwave. The one thing that has kept me driven is seeing the proof in my pictures, and most importantly my clothes. I’m able to get into clothes I never thought I would be able to wear, and clothes that I do have fit looser in a good way. I’d be lying if I said it was easy, but when I think back to all the sacrifices I made, it was definitely worth it to continue my journey.

Make no mistake, building the courage to block all those negative thoughts about your body isn’t going to be easy. However, if you start one day at a time, before you know it, you’ll be beaming with confidence. Once you get to that place of acceptance, loving yourself, and achieving your target weight, you’ll never want to go back. If you plan for success, implement that plan, and maintain it, you’ll see progress over time.

ChoosingCharlie.com is a lifestyle blog that targets multiple events such as fitness, hot topics, and food in a young, educated, active duty military soldiers life. I hope that if you can’t choose yourself then atleast you can choose Charlie.

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About The Author


Renee is the blogger behind The Fun Sized Life. After downsizing with her family, she also took the time to get serious about he finances. Now she is sharing the wealth with all of her readers.