The attachment to our things is real. Sometimes we hold on to stuff because of a memory or a person that we have attached to it. Sometimes there is that nagging feeling that tells us, “You might need that someday!” However, stuff isn’t all minimalism is about. It’s about priorities and choosing what you want to have in your life.
Whatever the reason, it’s natural to want to keep your stuff around. But what happens when you want to keep your stuff but live a simpler, more minimalist lifestyle? Well, let me tell you it’s totally possible. In fact, it might be the best way to start!
Let’s talk all about how you can downsize your life but keep your stuff!
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Get ready because up ahead we have a lot of different ways we are going to practice saying, “NO.”
This word can literally change your life if you allow it to. In fact, I recently purchased myself a shirt that says just, “No.” I saw it on a TV show and it made me laugh, but now it actually has meaning and significance in my life. What shirt could be more minimalist than that? One word that completely tells the world how I’m feeling that day.
There are definitely days when we as people don’t want to do anything. When we are tired, broken down and have enough on our plates without having to say “yes” to more things because we feel obligated. So let’s talk more about saying “no.”
The first thing you need to remember is that saying “no” does not make you a bad person. It can actually make you a better person. The more you start saying no to things in your life that you don’t need or want, the more you can say yes to things that truly bring you joy.
Let go of any guilt that you feel over this word and start to embrace what possibilities would open up if you started using it more. Minimalism is right on the other side of the word no just waiting for you! Ok, that sounded corny…
Drowning in clutter and stuff can make us feel panicky, hopeless and stressed.
Drowning in debt offers up those exact same feelings. No one wants to live their lives feeling like they are shelling out their hard earned cash to debt collectors, credit cards or car payments.
If any of your goals require you to have financial freedom, now is the time to buckle down and get serious about demolishing your debt.
Talking about and acknowledging debt can be scary. Just like it can be scary when you decide to get rid of that blanket you’ve had since you were born because it no longer serves a purpose in your life. But living debt free is the most freeing feeling in the entire world.
When it comes to paying off debt, you may have to say no to a lot more things. Things like spa days, vacations and shopping sprees.
We said no to a lot of things for over 2 years. I also made it a top priority to find any stream of income that I could in order to help us pay off our debt faster! In July, we were able to pay off over $1,200 in just one week!
Like I said, minimalism is all about getting your priorities strait. So think about it, what you are you being held back from because of debt? What could you do if you didn’t have financial obligations holding you down?
For me personally, I want to travel. I want to be able to have my whole family over for dinner and not worry if we spend $500 at the grocery story. Spending time with those I love is all I want my life to be about. Exploring the world with my kids and laughing with everyone I cherish in life.
It’s also about giving. When I hear about a friend in need, I want to be financially able to hand them a wad of cash and expect nothing in return.
Whatever your reason for wanting financial freedom, hang on to that motivation. When you feel like spending money or purchasing something you don’t need, keep your long term goals in the back of your mind and just say no.
If you are anything like me, you have some seriously jam packed days. When I’m not working, or homeschooling or taking care of our dogs, there is always some meeting or email that needs my attention.
It gets exhausting.
Would you believe me if I told you I used to have a lot more on my plate and the day I finally started saying no to more things was one of the most freeing times of my life.
Things I’ve said “no” to:
If you are a classic schedule over-booker like me, I have come up with some seriously awesome ways to start slacking more that I think you’ll really enjoy:
Schedule clearing posts:
Now this one is a toughy…at least it was for me.
What expectations are you putting on yourself that are just plain unrealistic?
I can’t tell you how many times I have had moms tell me that they feel like worse mothers because they see all that I do with my kids.
On Facebook I share the crafts we do, I share the meals I make and all our smiley fun adventures. Part of this is because I grew up with my mom constantly taking photos. Photos speak to me, I love them so I take advantage in every special moment I spend with my little ones.
Call me crazy but when I’m screaming bloody murder, slamming doors and locking myself in the bathroom just to get some peace and quiet I don’t often think of snapping a photograph. (Sometimes I do. That’s just how much I like pictures.)
The point I’m trying to make is that a lot of times we add stress where stress is not needed by expectations that we put on ourselves.
One huge way to avoid the stress of this is to just totally own up to your limits.
No one can do everything and that is absolutely, 100% OK. Admitting that you can’t juggle it all is the first step toward putting the efforts into what you can do.
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Like I said, when you take the time to say “no” more often, you are really saying “yes” to something else.
If you say “no” to volunteering at your child’s school, you’re maybe saying yes to 1 hour of quiet alone in your house which makes you happier mom when your kids step off the bus at the end of the day.
This one word is the most freeing way to begin a minimalist journey. Minimalism after all requires a lot of saying no. It’s all about priorities and knowing what yours are. Learn now what you need and what you don’t need and never be afraid to say “No.”