When I first started my minimalist journey, I was hanging out in a lot of minimalism centered Facebook groups and one of the big conversations that would stir within these groups were frustrations with family members who would buy gifts for them or request gifts. Since we’re inching closer to Christmas time as I write this article, I felt like I needed to put in my two cents on the matter — because that’s what the internet needs, more people loudly stating their opinions. (JK) My hope is that this will give you a slightly shifted perspective on gift giving, stuff, and being patient with how others choose to live and give.
My husband Tom and I were recently chatting and he was telling me about how he had been describing me to his new co-workers. One man said his girlfriend is pretty shy and Tom replied with, “My wife can talk to anyone for an hour whether they are 5 or 90.” I lit up hearing him say that, even though he didn’t think much of it. In a single moment I became aware of this amazing talent that I never realized I possessed. I really can sit and talk to just about anyone for an hour and love every single minute of it. When I shared this story on TikTok I had a lot of people asking how it was so easy for me. I’ve had some time to mull it over and I’ve put together my 5 best tips — heads up, this isn’t some BS fluff post — this is real hardcore truth.
No matter who you are or where you come from, there will most likely come a time in your life when you are feeling called to make a big, scary change. This might be ending a relationship, changing professions, or in the case of our family, downsizing our house and taking a chance on a life with more freedom. While many of us will feel called to make these changes, the truth is, not all of us will answer the call. The reason is that big change, well, it’s scary and it’s risky. I saw a movie once that referenced the devil and that he wouldn’t openly lead us to a tortuous life that was painful and awful. Instead the temptation would be in a cushy, comfortable life that we are too afraid to leave. When we can stay comfortable where we are, we don’t risk failure, but we just might be risking living a life disconnected from our purpose. So, if you’re feeling called to change, if you’re ready to course correct your life, or if you’re still tiptoeing on the fence, this message is for you!
Ya know, no one really likes to read stuff with the word “die” in the title, but nothing else is really going to convey my message quite as strongly, and since I’ve made peace with this dreaded word, I’m gonna go ahead and let it be. The thing is, most of us, especially those with kids, want to make sure we are leaving something behind when we go. One of the most commonly Googled things is how to leave your house to your children when you die. If you are hoping to gift your kiddos a house, might I suggest looking into Swedish Death Cleaning before you do — there I go again with that word. The thing is, a lot of people leave their children behind not only grieving the loss of a parent(s) but also having to now deal with cleaning up all their parent’s sh*t. So, if you don’t want to leave your children grieved and burdened, it might be a good idea to do a few declutter sessions before you make your grand exit. But, that’s besides my point. I want you to actually leave more behind when you die! I know I sound like I’m contradicting myself, but just hear me out…
I think at some point we have all been that kid living in a total fantasy world. Maybe you were a super hero who was fighting dragons or bad guys. You could have been the princess like me that all the hottest dudes in the land were willing to go to war over. NBD. Whatever the dream or unrealistic fantasy, for most of us that kind of just fades as we get older. We get caught up in our school work, are told the expectations that are set for us to immediately become adults and somewhere along the way life loses its luster and potential. Uhm, but the thing is, it’s still just as much a reality as it was when you were a kid and I’m gonna need you to listen up. Extraordinary living — like you imagined when you were just a tike, is totally a thing that is obtainable now and minimalism has continually helped me edge my way closer and closer to it…or maybe I’m full fledged in it? You decide.
I don’t know where all of this information was back in 2013 when our family got way in over our heads financially, but nevertheless, it is here for YOU now! If you are someone who feels like you are always struggling with money and can’t seem to get ahead, there may be some life circumstances that are making it difficult, but you might also have fallen into the trap of living above your means. This is something people can so easily fall into without realizing just how much it’s going to drain them energetically and financially. What’s worse is that that some of the financial institutions we decide to blindly trust are usually aware we’re making a huge mistake or have no clue themselves. So, as a former broke girl, I feel it is my duty to fill in some gaps for you to prevent you from drowning financially — or give you some ideas on how to get out if you currently find yourself treading water.