Why Your Self Help Books Are Making You Feel Worse

The self help genre of books have been dominating book store shelving for the last few decades. You can barely enter a coffee shop without someone pouring over the book that “changed their life.” However, there is a whole other group of people who pick up these books, read a few pages and then sink into a pit of despair. If these books are designed to enhance our lives, why do some of us have this reverse effect? Here we’ll cover the reasons why those self help books might be making you feel bad and what you can do to use self help the right way.

The Secret Self Development Side of TikTok No One is Talking About

I joined TikTok in July 2020 because we were in the midst of Covid shutdowns and an Instagram friend of mine who has always seemed pretty normal was sharing her TikTok so I figured I would give it a try. At first I just kind of lingered (by the way, this is the creepiest form of social media use, I know). I was the fly on the wall watching all the hot 20-somethings dance next to their in ground pools. I cheered on newly divorced women as they found their way in life. Oh, and also, lesbian TikTok found me big time. I guess if you Google search Jessica Alba Into the Blue one too many times, you have only yourself to blame. Anyway, TikTok doesn’t look like that for me any more. At least for the most part. I have grown to over 250K followers and because I am still getting side glances from my 30-something friends, I felt like I needed to clear things up. Let’s talk about the “other side” of TikTok.

I Followed My Intuition for 60 Days. Here’s what happened.

One of the most difficult things any of us can try and do in life is decipher between what we intuitively are lead to and what our brain makes us believe we should do. At least it has been for me. It can be so easy to mix up the things we believe we are supposed to do or the most logical things with what our heart instinctively knows is right for us. Despite the difficulty of actually trusting intuition, I have come to find that whenever I have allowed myself to follow my intuition things go smoothly, life feels purposeful and easy and I am far more content. With a determination to really test out intuition and to see if that whole, “Let go and let God” thing actually works, I decided to spend the last 60 days getting really intentional about listening to and following my intuition. Here’s how I did it, what I learned and what the plan is from here…

When You Declutter Your Closet, You Just Might Find Yourself

It makes sense that I started my minimalist journey in the closet. My entire life had been spent building up a wardrobe that I felt like I could be proud of. So, I suppose it makes the most sense to think that the closet just might be where I would also lose myself. You see, I have come to realize that our clutter, specifically the areas where we struggle the most, is often a way for us to cover up or disguise our truest self. The funny thing is, more often than not, we are disgusting our true self from…ourselves. Let’s dive into that for a minute and talk about how we can often find who we are the second we start to downsize our wardrobes

Why We Ignore Our Intuition and How to Develop it More

I interviewed multiple women at the end of 2020 and one consistent thing that I heard from them was that they were aware of their intuition but chose to ignore it. That’s crazy to think, isn’t it? While I believe we all have intuitive nudges in our bodies, rumor has it that women have a heightened sense of these things. (I’ve never been a man, so I can neither confirm nor deny this.) We have been given this amazing gift and yet we ignore it because we have been trained to tune out our inner guidance system from the day we are born. Well, in a burst of inspiration (wink, wink), I decided to see what happens when I completely followed my intuition. Will my life really transform the way they say it will?