One of the top questions/comments I hear from people is something like this:
“I would be minimalist, but my husband hangs onto everything!”
“I can’t declutter because my wife doesn’t want to!”
Now…I hear you, I get it. You are sharing your life with a person and you are sharing your home with a person so it’s kind of hard to create a simple home when they are mini hoarders. Correct?
Let’s talk about that…
I recently hosted one of my live decluttering sessions where I was given the chance to do some one on one coaching. Mid way through our session, my client, Haley, referenced a stress ball that she struggled to get rid of. This is the same old struggle most of us face when it comes to decluttering. We have an item that we don’t really use but we try to convince ourselves that we will or that it might come in handy one day. Here’s the cold hard truth about those un-used items that you might need someday.
As someone who is a potentially undiagnosed with ADHD, I have always found cleaning my space a little more difficult because I find myself pulled in all different directions. Throughout the years, especially after practicing minimalism, I have perfected a method that helps me quickly and easily organize and clean areas of my home without getting overwhelmed or making a bigger mess. I want to share with you my 4 bin system that has helped me do this. My method is one that I use and share with people during my live decluttering sessions and has been 100% effective in helping people clear through clutter quickly and easily.
I still remember the day that I was bringing yet another load of donations to Goodwill. Yes, I know not everyone likes that I give to Goodwill. While I’m sure there are many other worthy causes in my area to give to, whenever I have the intention to give to them I usually end up having 3 garbage bags full of good intentions sit in the trunk of my car for months. Then, one day I open them up — ya know, just to see — and end up bringing stuff back into my house with me. This is why I adapted the habit of immediately donating whenever I found myself with the motivation to clean house. However, I had a shocking realization one day that I was donating an awful lot. I used to think this was a good thing, however, I couldn’t help but realize this meant I was in fact never actually creating a less-cluttered house. I was simply staying an equal amount of cluttered all year long. Sound familiar? Read on.
When I first started this little blog of mine, I felt like I needed to fit in with all of the other minimalist and organizational gurus out there. The thing is, I just couldn’t. It didn’t feel natural to me. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not for lack of trying. Oh, yes, I bought into some amazing organizational hacks in my day and when they would eventually fail, I couldn’t help but feel like there must be something fundamentally wrong with me. To help you save you from the same fate, I’m going to get really honest with you about one of the biggest organizational lies we let ourselves believe that actually keeps us working harder!
No matter how bad we might crave the benefits of a clean, clear, clutter-free home, it’s kind of hard not to pretend that it’s actually really difficult parting with our beloved things. Some of us might have a tougher time than others getting rid of things family heirlooms. Others might struggle with clinging to the past (AKA those size 0’s jeans you know won’t even fit leg anymore). No matter why type of stuff it might be, the truth of the matter is, we are clinging to something other than the item itself. While there is never a one-size-fits-all reason for why we struggle to eliminate clutter from our homes, here are some ideas based on what I have learned so far.