We have all heard the term fake it til you make it. If you haven’t heard of this yet, this is a phrase that is used to help encourage people to do hard things in life. Things that they might feel apprehensive about or have a lot of self doubt about. There is definitely some truth to this phrase, in some senses you can fake it until you make it, however, there are definitely things to consider first. In this article we’ll talk about the major pitfalls of faking it and what steps you can take to build real confidence.
The self help genre of books have been dominating book store shelving for the last few decades. You can barely enter a coffee shop without someone pouring over the book that “changed their life.” However, there is a whole other group of people who pick up these books, read a few pages and then sink into a pit of despair. If these books are designed to enhance our lives, why do some of us have this reverse effect? Here we’ll cover the reasons why those self help books might be making you feel bad and what you can do to use self help the right way.
There are so many times in life where we chase goals. We have this vision of who we want to be and the life we want to have. That is beautiful. However, what tends to happen is that we chase a goal for the wrong reason. We never truly take a moment to get quiet with ourselves, tap into what our deepest desires are and therefore when we reach the goal or achieve the success it falls flat. These are stories we have heard time and time again from 6-figure Wall Street earners to people who bought their dream home only to sell it and downsize a year later. So, how do we avoid the fallout? What can we do to side-step the whole crash and burn? The hint is in enjoying the process itself.
If you haven’t heard the news yet, we are in preparation for even more shortages in 2021. This time the main panic is around a toy shortage this Christmas. At this point in the Covid pandemic, we aren’t really strangers to shortages. Empty shelves at the supermarket, fights breaking out over toilet paper. Are any of us really surprised that there might not be toys at Christmas? While we have been through the ringer when it comes to surviving the pandemic madness, it’s my belief that the toy shortage is really telling us something far bigger than we realize.
How often do we all hear the same round of tips that are supposed to help us achieve our goals? Things like, “Get up an hour earlier.” “Don’t give yourself time to think about it. Just do it.” or “Drink more water.” While these are all fine…
Let’s face it, we live in a world that values business and productivity. Both of these things are of course partially to blame for the rise in anxiety and stress levels around the globe. Thankfully, we are also in the midst of a movement. A movement to take back our time, take back our lives and take back our peace. When you look up zen practices or mindfulness techniques on the internet, it can sometimes feel like one more thing you have to cram into your busy day. That’s why I’ve compiled a list of 5 zen habits you can adapt that take 1 minute or less but can help you make tiny transformations throughout your busy days.