This shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone anymore but I absolutely love being a part of the minimalist movement. When we first started downsizing over a year ago, I started seeking out other like-minded people. I read books, joined Facebook groups and watched tiny house documentaries. What I like to call The Minimalist Diet is really an entirely new, less stress way of living and I adore it. However, like I do with most things in my life, I found a way to add stress. Yes, the less-stress way of living, I made extremely stress-full. So how do you downsize and start minimalism with going overboard? How do you keep a clutter free home when you still have items you want to purchase? I have the answer to all these questions. How you can create a peaceful, minimalist environment and still keep “stuff” in your life.
One thing I found after watching documentaries and reading all the downsizing books, I started to feel like I had way too much stuff. Despite having downsized our home and all of our belongings, I still felt like I was never doing enough.
I sure wasn’t headed toward tiny house status. Why wasn’t I ready for a tiny house? Can I call my self a minimalist in a regular sized house? I felt like a fraud, a sham, and unworthy of the title “minimalist.”
Am I the only person this crazy?
Don’t answer that.
Everyone who wrote books and starred in documentaries had done major downsizes. They were living in tiny homes, living out of backpacks and absolutely loving their life. I couldn’t call myself a minimalist and still have a house full of things. My clothes would never all fit in a backpack. Clearly, these people were just way better than me. Right?
Slowly I started to realize, there weren’t actually rules to minimalism. So why did I feel like creating them? There would never be a point in downsizing or minimizing where I would know I had officially “made it.” Minimalism is meant to be a way of life. Living with more purpose and intention.
There were a few things I personally had to remind myself:
Even while reminding myself of all of this, I couldn’t help but think maybe there were guidelines that would help me keep myself on track. I didn’t want to fall back into the giant consumer, credit card debt pit I had been stuck in before.
So I decided to get intentional.
Before I bring anything new into our home, I make sure to make room by clearing out old clutter. Around Christmas time I get some garbage bags ready and the kids and I go through their rooms and toy area together to get rid of un-used toys. This makes Christmas a lot less stressful of a time and encourages the kids to find joy in the new things they’ve been given. Here are some major areas to keep an eye on:
I make sure to clear things out before anything new makes it in and I also make sure what comes in is only the top quality of items. When I’m shopping, if I don’t absolutely love the shirt I try on, I won’t get it. It doesn’t matter if it’s on sale or not. I would rather buy a $60 dress that I LOVE and will wear constantly than a dress that’s $5 that I have luke warm feelings for.
If you decide the minimalist way of life is for you, and you love the idea of a tiny house, it doesn’t mean you have to go from a 5,000 square foot home into a 900 square foot trailer to be successful at it. We downsized our house over a year ago and have repeatedly had to re-downsize. Then, like I said, with my wardrobe, I up-sized again. Well, I didn’t really up-size, I just didn’t force myself to downsize where I wasn’t ready to.
Who knows, maybe someday I will end up living in a portable tiny home. –Please God let it be after the kids move out, because heaven knows Mama can’t take that kind of smothering.
I do know it doesn’t have to be today or even in the next 10 years. What I do know is that minimalism has cleared my mind and my house. I wake up happier and for today, it works for me where I’m at. So give yourself patience and grace and know that this doesn’t have to be one drastic life change.
If you find yourself stressed or feeling unsuccessful (as I did) then you’re doing it all wrong. Minimalism should be a peaceful, enjoyable experience so make sure to keep your peace.
Keep the things around you that make you happy. Hang the art that brings you the most joy. Wear the clothes that make you feel awesome each day. Collect what you want and let go of what doesn’t enhance your life. Minimalism is just choosing to surround yourself with all the right things and letting go of any minor distractions.